Families are the essential building blocks of any society and happy families make a happy society. Everyone wants to live in a happy family as family is the place where human beings find the accomplishment of life. Modern families often face multiple relationship issues which have emerged as contribution of the changed lifestyle and les intense relationships.
Living in a happy family is important to mould each and every human being into responsible social beings. Home and families are places where kids and elders live with a feeling of security and also places of sharing, love, care and concern. Mutual understanding, adjustments and love creates the unbreakable bond between family members and if taken care of certain aspects, any family can be made a happy family.
Making a happy family is no magic as it requires just an extra strained nerve, to nurture love, to facilitate communication and to make each feel contented and secure. Let us see few of the inevitable building blocks that make a happy family.
Affection and love in the family is quite nature and must to have elements to promote the harmony and positive growth of the family. It is the deep affection that makes parents inclined to the sacrifices of growing up kids, perform household activities and meet the financial requirements. If the affection factor is absent no one would have lived dedicatedly for the family.
The affection obligates parents to take pain of looking after the kids and similarly, kids to love and obey the parents. Constantly nurturing the affection in the family is essential to keep the bond of love between the members of the family strong. It is the unmatched affection that creates the belongingness in the family life.
The affection expressed within the family is not benevolence but a commitment. Verbal expressions of affection, quality time spend with the family, gifts, mutual services, affectionate touch etc… are the most advised modes of nurturing the affection in the family between the family members.
Expression of Affection
Lavish expression of affection is the best way of fostering it. Verbal expression, physical expression etc., helps the affection to
Gender roles are defined by the socio-cultural norms of any society. In most of the societies the family systems are based on the gender roles and it is the pre-designed gender roles that help members of the family to run the family with bound responsibilities. Any disturbance in the gender role aspect may affect the smooth functioning of the easy-going of any family.
But today, the modern life has very much changed the family structure and the gender roles have been diverting from the traditional responsibilities and path of performance. In fact, the gap between different genders has already melted down, creating an all equal society and more equalized families. Today, there are no monarchs in families and no bout-to-obey members in families.
All live together, taking decisions together, expressing opinions openly, criticizing and encouraging mutually and yet being independent and responsible. The society-defined gender roles may crash with the modern roles of family members and many families experience the dilemma of the crashing gender
Romance is an integrated emotion and urge in human life. Human body and psychology is designed to attract members of opposite sex. This intelligent design is the key to human relationships and sexuality which further works as basic element of human continuity on earth through procreation. Usually male and female counterparts feel the buds of romance germinated within at the beginning of adolescence itself.
Sexual maturity has no role in bringing romance on ones minds as people may feel romance much before they attain puberty. Romance is a psychological application imprinted into your brain which is stimulated even in the childhood itself. There are several social and psychological aspects behind a person’s inclinations to fall in love.
Pheromones and Hormones
Most of the species are proved to produce certain pheromones and hormones which attract the opposite sex. Though fewer researches are taken place on human relationships, certain pheromones and hormones are believed to play vital role in attracting people each other and making them fall in relationships. These pheromones are said to be smell-free variants, as recognized by a psychological process not through a biological way.
Oxytocin and vasopressin are the two hormones that promote the emotion of romance in human beings. You might
Stress is a common phenomenon in life and even a newborn baby may experience stress of certain kinds. Stress begins from the womb and follows a person to the tomb. No one can resist stress and the only possible way of resisting it is to undergo it and learn to manage it. Stress in family can get more highlighted than any other stresses, as family is the union of people who are bound to love, and affection.
Any kind of stress felt in the family can affect each one of the members and also the entire jovial atmosphere of the family. Each one of the family member lives in various situations and it is possible that any one of them undergo stressful situations any time of life. Stress is an unpredictable element of life, though precautions work to an extent, learning best ways of stress management is the only solution to avoid the after effects of stress.
Let us see the ways of stress guarding the family in the most successful way.
Learn to recognize stress
Stress is an invisible emotion as it doesn’t have a specific form of expression. Stress is more or less an abstract emotion and gets expressed with the
Financial management within the family is a hard nut to crack for many of the home-runners. Though the income is high, several families find they run out of financial resources and helpless at emergency situations. Proper financial management within the family and maintaining the financial health is essential to be well supplied with economical resources when in need.
It is because of the failure in managing the financial resources many families get bound to bank loans, and often bankruptcy. Improper management of wealth sources will raise possible risks in life and will create unwanted situations in life. Managing money is not a tough concept, if approached well and remained adhered to the budget and decisions constantly.
Many people never consider or foresee the possible future expenses and drain out all the savings and resources for present day life. If reserved a bit of extra consciousness on the money matters, maintaining a healthy financial family is a possible task.
Always have a budget
Budget is the best possible form of scaling the income, expenditure and also a way of planning the savings for future emergencies. Every family will have certain amounts of income from the contribution of all the members put together. The budget should
Communication is not the mere verbal exchange of information in the families. It is the expression of respect, affection and concern. Communication doesn’t refers to the verbal alone in the family, but physical expressions, gestures and even an affectionate look can be communicative in the family.
It is through the communication the members of the family express their requirements, love, desires, advises etc., to each other person in the family. Family communication is very much different from that with formal communication. Experts say that there are four styles of family communication. Clear and direct communication, clear and indirect communication, masked and direct communication and masked and indirect communication.
Each of these styles has benefits and disadvantages; thus, it is the communicator who has to decide which style to be used according the situations. Whatever are the styles of communication and modes of it, people agree in a point that communication is the essential instrument or bonding factor in the family life.
There are many practical tips to make the communication between the family members more effective. Let us see some of them.
So your relationship has hit the stones and he’s finished with you. You quickly require him back and are prepared to endeavor pretty much anything. Well the inspiring news is that most associations can be recuperated – especially if you go the right way about it. Don’t you know a great deal of couples who have got back together after a division, on occasion really when the clarifications behind the partition were truly bona fide regardless? Conceivably you know of couples who have got back together after a section and you’ve thought “why for goodness’ sake has he/she taken her/him once more?” There really are few, if any, hopeless circumstances.
What you need to bring back lost love is to take after a productive strategy and refrain from submitting some principal slips – the most discernibly the most exceedingly terrible of which is probably to attack your ex with unending phone calls or texts. Such an expansive number of young women resort to this, however all it by and large accomplishes will be to genuinely bug him and push him promote away. Similarly don’t ask, contend, weaken or yell abuse at him.
Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, “I’m no longer willing to be a trash can for others’ negativity.”
“Wow!” I said. “I’m delighted to hear that! And I love that metaphor!”
Carmen is a lovely, warm, intelligent and compassionate young woman in her late 20’s. Coming from a very narcissistic mother, Carmen learned early in life to be safe from her mother’s anger by listening to her mother’s complaints. She learned to put aside her own feelings and be a mother to her mother. Of course, no matter how much she gave to her mother, it was never enough. It wasn’t until Carmen started her Inner Bonding work that she discovered was narcissism was.
Early in our work together, Carmen discovered that most of her friends were just like her mother. “I sit and listen to them complain or listen to them brag. They are never interested in me at all. If I say anything about myself, they always bring it right back to themselves. Why are so many of my friends like this?”
“Because you are willing to listen without speaking up for yourself. There are many self-absorbed people — narcissistic people with entitlement
There are too many dangerous misconceptions that shape our view of the so-called perfect relationship. Usually, those misconceptions deal with the stripping of one’s individuality in the name of long-lasting coupledom and undeniable romance.
You don’t do what you want to do, you do what we want to do.
You don’t have your own opinion, the two of you have an opinion.
You don’t have your own space, the two of you share a space.
And while the comfort of all-encompassing closeness can be the magic fairy tale dreams are made of, it is also unreasonable, unsustainable, and downright dangerous.
Because the truth is, we all need time alone.
We need to feel the space between adorned walls and lazy chairs, where our bodies can stretch and expand and unapologetically take up free space.
We need the opportunity to sit in solitude, untouched and unattached, so the constantly swirling complexities of any given day can be digested.
We need to feel nothing but the air we’re breathing, our skin burdened only by the weightlessness of silence.
And we especially need to be alone when we find ourselves in a relationship.
It doesn’t mean you don’t care about your partner. It doesn’t mean you can’t stand to be around them or
Ladies and Gentlemen, let me decree: The age where you stop putting up with people’s bullshit is 36. It may come well before then, but I know for sure the beaten, bloody corpse of giving-a-damn breathes its last miserable breath on your 36th day of birth.
Too dramatic? You’re right. I’m an artist. I get emotional sometimes. Let me try this again.
This year on my 36th birthday, I received a phone call from someone purporting to wish me well; but I was instead met with an out-of-nowhere onslaught of anger, bitterness and passive-aggressive insults. I tried desperately to save the conversation, to walk away from the call with some sense of positivity, but the wounds were too deep and the history between us too complicated.
Which is when I came to a necessary but painful realization: the relationship needed to end immediately. I wished the person well and hung up the phone. I will probably never speak to them again.
Put very simply, if a relationship (whether it be a friend, a family member or a significant other) makes you feel bad, you shouldn’t be in it.
That’s not to say that relationships aren’t complex and multifaceted, and not every interaction will be
First dates are awkward enough when they’re going smoothly, so you can only imagine the horrors of a date that is going terribly wrong. You know you have imagined it, too (if you haven’t already experienced it yet, that is): you’re on your way to a first date, and your palms are sweaty while worst-case scenarios swirl around your head. Some people make it through their date without incident (and feel a little silly for imagining such absurd things to begin with), but some people have their worst fears realized- and we’ve asked these people to share their stories for our own viewing pleasure (and reassurance!) that it happens to everyone. It’s a part of life, so laugh it off, albeit, a bit nervously. Read on for ten of the “worst-date scenarios” ever experienced, and be thankful these haven’t happened to you (yet). And share your own if you’ve got one!
1. The Player
“I went to a bar with a guy who complained about being tired the entire time and said little else. He played candy crush until the cheerleaders came out on TV during the football game that was playing, then told me, ‘I’m awake now!’”
“She isn’t attracted to me anymore. She never acts as excited to see me when I come home. Why can’t it just be like it was in the beginning?” My friend has just entered into the first of two common phases of relationship insecurity: rhetorical questioning. The internal investigation continues with, “She takes forever to answer my texts. Doesn’t she miss me when I’m gone? She used to always laugh at my jokes. Do you think she’s interested in someone else?”
Then comes phase two: turning on himself, “It’s because I’m losing my looks. I’m away too often. She doesn’t think I’m fun anymore. I can’t make her happy. There’s something wrong with me. She wants someone better.”
We’ve all most likely been at one or the other ends of this scenario; we’ve either been the worrier or been with the worrier. Chances are, we’ve actually experienced both. Insecurity , as most of us know firsthand, can be toxic to our closest relationships. And while it can bounce back and forth from partner to partner, both the cause of our insecurity and its cure reside in us alone.
Unsurprisingly, studies have found that people with low self-esteem have more relationship insecurities, which
I think one of the greatest relationship myths perpetuated by-single-people-for-single-people, is that if you are patient and look hard enough, you will eventually find your “perfect” mate. Operating under this assumption, we spend much of our fantasy-time envisioning what this perfection entails, creating a laundry list of personality traits, physical features, abilities and even experiences that this imminent lover of ours will have. “I’m seeing… a bilingual Ivy League grad, at least six feet tall, and naturally charismatic. He’ll get along with my mom, have a golden retriever named Buddy, and be as good in bed as he is at his executive level finance job,” we declare to our friends over our third round of happy hour vodka tonics.
Perhaps even less emotionally healthy than theorizing about our own imaginary partners, we also gossip about coupled-up acquaintances and evaluate the merit of their real-life romantic companions. “I don’t know what Maggie sees in him, she could do so much better!” someone might say, and then inevitably follow this up with a declarative: “I would never settle like that.”
So there we are, simultaneously holding on to our idea of a flawless romantic match while also asserting we won’t settle for anything
You have to love someone in the cracks between the big moments. You have to grab their hand when you’re sitting on the couch watching Shark Tank together and you have to give them a little knowing look that says, “I see you and I love you here in the mundane moments of our life.” You have to understand who you are, to dive deep into the wounds of your past so that you don’t bring those wounds into the present. You need to know when it’s about you or when it’s about them. You have to carry your own pain.
It’s easy to fall in love with someone, to bask in newly-minted intimacy and lose yourself in the romance. It’s easy to start a love. It’s the staying part. The keeping part. The difficulty comes in the life plus love part, when you’re trying to squish two people together to make a unit.
When life enters the picture – bills and payments and jobs and stress and divided attentions – that’s when love starts to feel less like a romance and more like a battle. This is when the best of intentions fall to dust, when two people who used to spend a day
Everyone gossips, whether they believe they do or not. Remember when your co-worker complained about your crazy boss, and you nodded in agreement? Or when you told your friend that thing you didn’t like about your other friend? Or that concerned conversation you had about a friend’s drinking habits — but the conversation wasn’t directly with them?
That’s gossip, alright. And we’re all guilty as charged.
In the world of social crimes — picking your nose in public or eating someone else’s lunch at work — gossip seems more of a misdemeanor, or at least a petty offense. What’s so terrible about airing your grievances once in awhile, or confiding in a friend?
More than you would think. Understanding the true nature of gossip will change the dynamic of your friendships, your business relationships, and even time-tested bonds within your own family. Caring about it will change YOU, and the way you relate to and communicate with everyone in your life.
IT STARTS INNOCENTLY ENOUGH.
Most people don’t gossip with the intention of outrightly trashing their unsuspecting subject. Typically, it goes something like this: Someone or something offends you, and you’re not cool with it. Maybe you have every right to be upset. Your
So fragile, yet lovely; this is the most fitting definition to any relationship, be it marriage, romance or living together. No one is perfect in the world, at least when it comes to relationships. People often commit mistakes. It is a common rule referring the human behavior that men learn from mistakes. But at the same time, some mistakes, if committed may cause irreparable damage to relationships and life itself.
It is always advisable to avoid relationship mistakes as relationships are union of two people; thus a mistake committed may affect both of them. Certain mistakes may lead to unfixable breakups and being sorry after committing a mistake may not help regaining the trust and love of the person. Let us see some of the most common mistakes people commit when they are in relationships.
If you want to sustain the relationship further or for the lifetime, be in control of yourself. Many people lose control easily, especially with the life partner. Marriage or mutual agreement of getting into relationship is not a license to express as you feel it. Losing control is a sign of considering the partner less important or inferior. Frequent act of losing control in conversations or
Relationships are so delicate and can break on minor issues and simple misunderstandings. Once broken, it is a die-hard task to mend the relationship and get back the same intensity of affection in the relationship. There can be visible reasons, may be a misunderstanding or communication gap, at times it can be a mistake of someone else; fragile relationships can break over any simple cause. The cause for the easy breaks in relationships is that relationships are mind products, subjective to each person.
Many relationships are not the union of best possible matches but best available pairs, or when people misconceive the partner so. Relationships start blindly by peripheral understandings and attraction; it proceeds through adjustments, forgiveness and understanding; and breakup over misunderstandings, mistakes or lack of tolerance. Getting back into the relationship, though difficult, is possible if approached the issues with the right understanding and mind to change and mend.
Understand the Reasons Behind Breakup
To resolve any issue, understanding the reasons is important. Without knowing the root cause, relationship issues cannot be repaired. It can be a past reason which is now absent or a still persisting reason. Analyze each stages of the relationship and find out at which point what
“Commitment” is considered to be a very important and mature aspect of a man woman relationship. It is considered to be the culmination of a love relationship between two individuals which signifies that the people involved in the relationship love, sacrifice, understand and are ready to spend their whole life with each other. Commitment basically means a decision making procedure in a person’s life where he/she chooses the person he/she loves most as a life partner. Commitment needs to be displayed by both the individuals to make any sense of the word. The benefits of a committed relationship are many as it gives your life stability, resilience and belief making it healthy and beautiful.
There are a few ways which can be tread to develop a strong and committed relationship. You can give a chance to these tips listed below and definitely can enjoy the blessings of life in the companionship of the person you love the most.
Be clear to yourself
It is very important to have a clear conscience. You need to be absolutely clear in your mind about the love of a person you are going to be committed with. Listen to your heart, if you are overjoyed at the
Relationships like marriage, romance, live together or any of similar kinds can be sustained with a happy note if some of the secret rules are followed. Relationship is completely subjective and no clear cut rules can be executed on it, yet following certain guidelines may help proceeding happily in a relationship.
Many of these, so called, rules are based on the life experience of many happy couple and also the observation of people. When two people get into relationships, many of them wish for lasting relationships. But pathetically, a good number of them go apart after a while, in search of new partners. Let us see the secrets that constitute long lasting relationships or ever remaining relationships.
Breakup and Divorce are not the Solution
When asked about the best possible way of resolving the issues in relationships or marriage, many people may comment that breakup or a divorce is the best possible method of putting an end to all the troubles in a relationships. It is the biggest mistake people commit.
The reason for increased divorce rate is analyzed as the mentality of people who even before getting into a relationship think divorce as means of solving possible issues in it. Divorce is never